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for dating success, change your mindset from negative to hopeful

April 27, 2020

If you’ve been single for a while, it’s common for the disappointments, big and small, to add up and affect your perspective. Once the sense of fun has left the dating process, you can easily end up bringing negative energy into your dates. Negativity so often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because it holds you back from making connections. If there’s any “trick” that can help you navigate dating, it’s definitely having the right mindset for a healthy, enjoyable dating life.

Be Curious and Interested in Your Date

As Mark Twain famously said, “There has never been an uninteresting life. Inside even the dullest exterior, there is a drama, a comedy, and a tragedy.” Directing your energy towards curiosity about this other person can take some of the pressure off the entire experience. You’re here to spend time getting to know someone and letting the experience develop naturally. Curiosity can be your guide out of having too many expectations or missing the chance to find a real connection with this new person.

Be Okay With Staying Single

Manhattan woman putting on her makeup, looking in the mirror, with her hair in a towel. Negative inner voice can overwhelm your life, but with Manhattan Wellness therapists, you can learn how to quiet them.

It’s essential to cultivate a mentality that you don’t “need” for any particular date to go well. You don’t need a partner to complete your life or make you happy. If it feels like you do, that’s probably something to work on improving. Create a more fulfilling life for your own sake, but also because it’s a better foundation for entering a healthy relationship. You want to be a well-rounded person, and that’s also probably the kind of person you want to attract. Enjoy your life as much as possible, and then look for the right person to enjoy it with you.

Be Flexible and Open-Minded

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Having a lot of dating experience can help clarify what you’re looking for in a partner, but there’s no way to predict where love will be. Even if you think you “know” what you want, don’t get limited by having to tick off boxes from your list. Allow for an unexpected match to happen by remaining open to different possibilities.

To avoid getting stuck in a dating rut, shift your energy and your perspective towards enjoying the dating process. A positive mindset will do wonders to help you make real connections and attract the right person into your life.


If the journey of being a happy, single person feels challenging, seeking professional support can be a valuable resource. Therapists are trained to help individuals navigate their emotions, explore personal goals, and develop strategies for finding fulfillment. Through therapy, you can gain insights into patterns of thinking and behavior, identify areas for growth and receive guidance on building a positive and meaningful life.

Our society often prioritizes romantic relationships, but learning how to be happy as a single person is a powerful and transformative journey. It’s a time for self-reflection, personal growth and the cultivation of genuine happiness that comes from within. By embracing solitude, practicing self-love, building meaningful connections and setting personal goals, you can navigate the single life with confidence. Remember that being single is not a state of lack but an opportunity for fulfillment. Embrace your journey, focus on your well-being and fall in love with yourself!

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