Let’s be honest—swiping left and right can get exhausting. Dating apps promise connection, but too often deliver burnout, ghosting, and endless small talk that goes nowhere. If you’re feeling over it and craving something more genuine, you’re not alone.
Luckily, love isn’t limited to algorithms and curated bios. In fact, some of the best connections happen when you’re not even trying—when you’re out living your life and being yourself.
If you’re tired of dating apps and ready to meet someone IRL, here are 10 real-life ways to find someone special— no screen required.
1. Take a Class or Workshop
Whether it’s pottery, cooking, dancing, or improv comedy, group classes bring together people who already share a common interest. You’ll naturally have something to talk about, and the setting is casual, low-pressure, and fun. Plus, it beats another awkward coffee date.
Bonus: Even if you don’t meet someone right away, you’re learning something new and expanding your comfort zone—which is attractive in itself.
2. Attend Local Events or Meetups
Check out local events on platforms like Meetup, Eventbrite, or community Facebook groups. From hiking clubs to book discussions to trivia nights, there are tons of opportunities to connect with like-minded people.
The key? Show up with curiosity, not expectation. Genuine connections often happen when you’re not trying to “find” someone but are open to the moment.
3. Volunteer for a Cause You Care About
There’s something powerful about connecting over shared values. Whether it’s at an animal shelter, a beach cleanup, or a community food bank, volunteering is a meaningful way to meet people who care about the same things you do.
Plus, you’ll feel good doing it—which naturally makes you more open and engaging.
4. Ask Your Friends to Set You Up
It may feel old-school, but your friends know you better than any dating app ever will. Don’t be afraid to let them know you’re open to being set up. Even if it doesn’t lead to love, it can be a great way to meet someone new and practice being open to connection.
And let’s face it—your best friend probably has better judgment than your last algorithmic match.
5. Pursue Your Passions Publicly
Are you a runner? Join a local running club. Into photography? Take your camera to local events or nature trails. Love coffee? Be a regular at your favorite café and actually talk to people.
When you show up in the world doing things you love, you attract people who vibe with your energy. Passion is magnetic.
6. Go to Social Spots—Alone
Yes, solo. It might feel awkward at first, but going to a bar, museum, bookstore, or concert alone can actually make you more approachable. You’re not in a group, so it’s easier for people to strike up a conversation.
Bring a book or journal to feel more comfortable, and keep your phone in your bag. Being present makes you more open to spontaneous conversations. This is also a good exercise in feeling content with your own company. People can sense when you are comfortable and secure in spending time with yourself!
7. Take a Break From Your Routine
Change up your usual spots. Try a new coffee shop, take a different route to work, or explore a neighborhood you’ve never been to. New places = new faces.
It’s amazing how just stepping outside your regular routine can spark unexpected encounters.
8. Travel or Take a Solo Trip
Travel naturally opens you up to meeting people from different walks of life. Whether you’re exploring a new city, joining a group tour, or staying in a hostel, travel creates opportunities for authentic, in-the-moment connections.
Plus, being in a new environment boosts your confidence and sense of adventure—which are both wildly attractive qualities.
9. Practice Being Approachable
We live in a world where everyone’s eyes are glued to their phones. Make a conscious effort to be open. Smile, make eye contact, say hi. These small gestures send out “I’m open to connection” energy.
Start by engaging in small talk with strangers in line at the store, your barista, or someone next to you at an event. The more you practice, the more natural it feels—and the more likely it is that someone will strike up a conversation with you.
10. Be Open—and Patient
Here’s the truth: the real world doesn’t deliver instant gratification like a dating app. And, in some ways we may gravitate towards the apps to avoid rejection. But every time you choose real-life interaction over digital swiping, you’re building stronger connection skills, expanding your comfort zone, and attracting better-fit people into your life.
Love takes time, and often shows up when you’re focused on building a life you love—not desperately searching for someone to fill a gap. A NPR Podcast exploring this topic with sex and relationship educators also emphasized the importance of making this process enjoyable- we want to be moving through the dating world in a way that feels good rather than being stuck in a goal-oriented mindset.
Bonus Tip: Do the Inner Work
Dating apps aren’t inherently bad—they’ve helped a lot of people meet. But if you’re feeling drained or uninspired, it’s totally valid to want something more real. The good news? Love is still out there, in bookstores and community gardens, on hiking trails and at poetry readings. It’s in the person who holds the door open for you, the stranger who laughs at your joke, the friend of a friend you meet at a party.
Put your phone down. Look around. Say hi. The real world might just surprise you.
And, while you’re exploring these real-world ways to meet someone, don’t forget to nurture the most important relationship you’ll ever have—the one with yourself. Confidence, curiosity, and kindness are irresistible qualities, and they all start within.
The more aligned you are with your own values, the more likely you’ll attract someone who truly complements you—not just your dating profile. Whether you’re dancing at a wedding, helping out at a fundraiser, or walking your dog in the park, connection is possible anywhere. All it takes is presence, openness, and a willingness to engage.
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