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March 11, 2022
Now more than ever, many people are being pulled in different directions, experiencing extreme stress, and feeling overwhelmed in general. Many of us feel isolated and distant from the ones we love, while roommates and couples who co-habit are facing extra strain, especially when they work from home. Those of us who are single and live alone may be feeling lonely, disconnected, and unsupported.
Feeling independent is important for your self-esteem and self-image. As we establish our place in the world as professionals, we’re also playing other roles: daughters, sisters, brothers, sons, caretakers, students, romantic partners, and so on. That’s a lot to juggle, and we all want to appear capable of handling everything on our own. But asking for support doesn’t mean sacrificing our independence.
If you think that being independent means never asking for help, you’re putting way too much pressure on yourself. You’re living life on your own terms without being controlled by someone else, and that’s the very definition of independence. Independent people understand that everyone needs support along the way, and that asking for help is an important life skill.
If there’s one thing we all have in common, it’s stress. While we may think we’re alone in feeling our particular strains and stresses, that is far from the truth. Most of us could use a little help right now, and no one should feel afraid to ask for it. If this is a topic that raises hairs on the back of your neck, keep reading for the reasons you shouldn’t feel ashamed or guilty about asking for help.
Whatever you’re struggling with, don’t let your pride override your basic needs. It’s OK to ask for help, and it’s also a sign of:
For all these reasons, asking for help isn’t just a sign of strength, but also of understanding your limitations. Knowing your limits is a huge part of knowing yourself, and that’s a good thing.
It takes more courage to admit you need assistance than to pretend you’re fine on your own. This can be particularly tough for men, who tend to avoid asking for help, even (and especially) when they need it most. Why? Because men fear that needing help will be seen as a sign of weakness. Many women fear the same thing. Far from being a sign of weakness, it takes a much stronger person to ask for and accept help from others who are more than willing to give it.
A crucial element of a self-care regimen is the ability to acknowledge when we are out of our depth. This takes self awareness, a skill many of us are working on building all the time. It also takes a lot of self-kindness and compassion, which we can all benefit from.
If you think no one out there will want to help you, you might truly be surprised. When we can’t ask for help, we actually rob those who would truly want to help of the opportunity to do so.
There are often angels waiting in the wings if we can be humble enough to say we need assistance. Oftentimes, those around us have been trying to figure out ways to help for quite some time. You simply don’t know until you ask.
If you can build up the nerve to ask for help and your request is answered, there’s no need to feel guilt or shame. There will be plenty of opportunities for you to help others in the future. If you know someone who is afraid to ask for the help they need, simply sharing this article may be the first step in helping someone else feel empowered.
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