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You know you’re strong enough to fulfill your high expectations, but there are also moments when you know you’ve failed and can’t understand why. That’s only natural! Setting expectations is essential, but it can be dangerous if you set them so high that they become impossible to achieve. Here are a few ways to make sure you set the right expectations to guide you to success.
Value Yourself
The most important aspect of setting high expectations is knowing why you’re doing it. Absolutely challenge yourself! Setting goals to accomplish is one of the best ways to improve your self-esteem. The moment you realize that you have completed exactly what you set out to is one of the most exhilarating in life. You’ve just proven to yourself that you are able to recognize the potential within you and fulfill it. Set expectations that align with the things you want from life, whether that be working hard for a promotion or a raise, building new relationships, or just getting fit. Do the things that will make you, as an individual, more delighted with the unique aspects of your personality and daily life that truly matter.
Challenge Yourself
Don’t walk through life thinking you’re stuck in a single path. You are worth so much more than a job title. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself to try new things, to push for what you want. Studies show that having high expectations will result in better outcomes, no matter what you’re facing. Believe in your ability to rise to the occasion and instead of faltering, you will meet the opportunity head-on and win the day.
Know Yourself (and Others)
Even though you can do far more than you think, it is also true that you are not perfect. No one is. There are challenges that go beyond realistic expectations. If you start out with overconfidence and fail to meet an expectation, chances are you will grow even more pessimistic about what you can and can’t accomplish. Check in with yourself regularly. Take a journal, lay out what you expect from yourself, and keep track of your progress. If you find that your stress level is through the roof and you aren’t making headway, rethink your goals. Sometimes all they need is a little fine-tuning to make sure you’re keeping them within the boundaries you have set for yourself.
Ultimately, high expectations will make your life better, and unrealistic ones will break your heart. Set your mind on becoming a better person and let that person be the goal. Trying to be what you think everyone else wants will only end in failure, so know who you want to be and get to work fulfilling those expectations and living your best life now. You can do it!
