It’s natural for relationships to feel like they’ve stalled or have plateaued after that initial spark. In the beginning, it can feel especially exciting as you experience all of the ‘firsts’ of the relationship. After the initial excitement fades, routines, responsibilities, and the daily grind can overshadow the spark that brought you together initially. Nonetheless, no matter what stage your relationship is in, continuing to date your partner is essential. This can help reignite that spark by creating opportunities for you to be intentional with one another and deepen the connection.
First and foremost, prioritize time together! In the hustle of everyday life, quality time with your partner often takes a backseat. Reclaiming this time together is essential for rebuilding closeness and allowing for reconnection. Schedule regular date nights with each other and really prioritize these without distraction. This may look like exploring a new part of the city or surrounding towns you live in. Go to a new show that just came out or a new exhibit. Whether it’s going out for a fun activity, fancy dinner, or a quiet night in, the key is to make your time together enjoyable and about truly connecting. This means focusing solely on each other and being fully present in the moment. In today’s fast-paced world, where our phones constantly demand our attention, it’s especially important to step away from the screens. Make a conscious effort to put down your devices, tune out the noise of daily life, and tune into your partner. Giving each other undivided attention not only strengthens your bond but also shows respect and appreciation for the time you’re sharing.
Rekindling emotional and physical intimacy is also an important tool in bringing back the spark of a relationship. Psychcentral explains how to bring back romantic gestures in order to reignite that spark. They advise, “Consider asking your partner how they like to be loved or rather, what things make them feel loved and appreciated. Is it time with them? Maybe it’s getting gifts once in a while? Perhaps they prefer you to verbally express love. Using their love language can help bring you back together. Someone whose love language is words of affirmation may prefer receiving compliments or love letters, whereas someone who appreciates acts of service may feel loved when you complete a project around the house or cook them a meal. The three other love languages are receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. You may be surprised to find that your partner’s love language is different than your own. Being loved in the way you appreciate the most may be one of the most important ways to rekindle a broken relationship.”
Starting small is also essential. Simple gestures like holding hands, hugging, or a kiss hello or goodbye can help rebuild physical connection. Betterhelp explains, “You may also find that spending more quality time together naturally leads to increased intimacy, so it is not necessary to force romantic moments. Starting small with some quiet time on the couch together may be enough to spark a moment of deeper connection.”
And, you don’t have to start this journey with your partner alone! Couples counseling is an amazing way to start fueling that reignition of the spark in your relationship. A blog from Manhattan Wellness therapists explains how couples therapy can help rebuild your relationship’s foundation. “Going through therapy together demonstrates a renewed commitment to the relationship. It shows that both partners are willing to invest time and effort into rebuilding and improving the partnership, with the ultimate goal of a renewed commitment to the relationship.” Couples therapy will not only help to rebuild your relationship’s foundation, but will hold you accountable for maintaining it and making it fun while doing so!
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